Showing posts with label Life Lessons. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life Lessons. Show all posts

2012

I'm extremely stuffed from all that Christmas food at home - so that's day 4 of my state of food coma. Will be locking myself in the gym next week man. Hahaha. Don't get me wrong, I'm still grateful for the company of all these amazing people in this festive season :) Oh yes, the food and gifts too :) Hurhur. 

Amid all the eating, drinking, partying and gift receiving/giving, it's also time of the year to give thanks for all the amazing things that have taken place in the last 11 months and to welcome yet another awesome year with a grateful heart :) 

2012 was well.... eventful. An extremely unpleasant working experience and a sizeable amount of wallowing in self-pity took up the bulk of my 2012. I reported to an emotionally abusive boss, was completely demoralized about my future career path, got fired for no apparent reason, threw myself into 6 months of joblessness and ended my rocky love relationship. Looking back, it has been quite a ride.

It has however, also became a year of discoveries for me. That I could be a true blue Debbie Downer if something hit me hard enough. That I have the potential to turn bitter. That real naysayers do exist, and in definite abundance. That I really do love hotels. That when some things are not meant to last, they are not meant to last. That no one can take away your self-worth unless you allow them to.

Being Debbie Downer made me miss my jovial self very much and I'm more than happy to have her back now :) Most importantly, I never want to lose her again! Niahaha. I guess sometimes things need to happen for one to understand only you know what's best for you. So to all you peepz out there who can't stand me being the forever energizer bunny, too bad guys. I got her back and I ain't ditching her again. So deal with it. Hahahaha. I've learn that naysayers exist not to run you down, but to fortify what you want/don't want in life. So instead of resisting them, embrace them. There's no need to get defensive or break down under their words. Let them probe about your passions or capabilities - acknowledge them and then surpass them. Simple as that. Last but not least, sometimes when you feel that a certain relationship is not a good fit, you are probably right. Don't ignore what your heart or your inner voice tells you. Most of the time, they are eerily accurate.

This year has shown me one thing - that like what my friends have been telling me for years, I'm truly a very blessed child. Clearly, much have happened this year so that I have access to better things. I guess Ted Mosby (for you How I Met Your Mother fans) was right when he said "Things fall apart for better things to fall in. You just have to believe in it.". And things have turned out just like what the director in my previous company said, "Everything will get better. It always does." 10 months ago, I sat in his room, thinking that he was mad when he was speaking those exact words. But now, I see what he meant. 

I've come a long way for 2012, or at least I'll like to think that way. Hurhur. 


Sometimes instead of looking how far we are from our goals, we need to celebrate how far we've come as well :). I certainly am miles away from where I expect myself to be but I'm equally thankful what a long way I've come today. 

Will need to start cleaning the bedroom and work on those plans for 2013! 

Till then, make merry and enjoy the festive season with your very loved ones :)   

Gifts for yourself this Christmas :)

It's 1 hour to Christmas and I'm home here typing a blog entry. Hahaha. I just finished 2 rounds of Christmas celebrations with (clearly) 2 separate groups of people. I'm supposed to head west for another celebration but too much food has rendered my system a little too uncomfortable :(

And that explains why I'm home early and having an old fart kinda Christmas celebration - curled up on the sofa with TV and laptop. Hurhur. Oh and a glass of warm water too. Hahaha.

While you gift yourself expensive bags and goods this festive season (because yes you deserve them! :) ), how about giving yourself some amazing and free gifts too? I came across the following list in the afternoon and it resonate with me so much, especially so for the highlighted points.

1. The freedom to be unapologetically YOU.
2. An uninhibited imagination.
3. An open mind.

4. The commitment to fail forward - Failing is as certain as sunsets and detours. So why exert energy avoiding the unavoidable? Embrace it. Shift your energy from protecting yourself from failure to squeezing the life out of life. Get real comfortable with that uneasy feeling of going against the grain and trying something new. Doing so will always take you to places you never thought you could go.

5. Using encouraging words - Words are powerful. They can create or they can destroy. The simple words you choose, especially when you speak to yourself or about yourself, can offer encouragement and positive thoughts going forward, or they can send you further into despair. So choose your words wisely.

6. A 'glass' filled with the right things - It's not just whether your glass is half-empty or half-full that matters. You also have to be mindful of what you're filling your glass with. Be sure to fill it with those things that satisfy you soul; good friends and family to love, passions to pursue, dreams to fulfil,  and charity for others. Because the only situation more tragic than seeing your glass as half-empty, is filling your glass until it is overflowing, and then realizing that there's nothing in it to satisfy your thirst for a meaningful life.

7. Enjoying what you have. - The thing you need to do is enjoy the ride while you're on it. Think positive, be positive, and positive things will happen. Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not. Enjoy your blessings right now. Remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Celebrate this. Work on being appreciative and happy that when others look at you, they become a little happier too.

8. Lifelong learning.

9. Hope. - Remember, it's always darkest just before the dawn. Never underestimate the strength of your will to live after a loss, to love after heartache, or to rise after a fall. For although your troubles may be too dense and dark right now for you to see the light, that doesn't mean there isn't a strong spirit within them, or a beautiful sunrise just beyond the horizon. 

10. Spirituality.
11. Stability and love at home.

12. A positive temper - Anger can be useful in calling your attention to issues that require your response; but anger itself is not an effective response. Take a slow, deep breath, and remind yourself of how much more effective you can be by maintaining a positive, results-oriented approach to the issue at hand. Don't let the silly, thoughtless, destructive actions of others trap you in an unproductive state of anger. Take note of your anger, let it go, redirect your focus on being your best self, and you'll sure emerge with a smile.

13. A sense of humour - He or she who laughs, lasts. A sense of humour is a major defense against minor troubles - something life is filled with. So laugh as often as you can with those around you, for your sake and theirs.

14. Doing the best you are capable of. - Don't complain about something you can actually do something about. Take action. Do the best that you're capable of. Any less is cheating yourself. Those who get the most from life are those who give the most. Find something you're passionate about, and keep tremendously interested in it and focused on it.

15. Being the change you want to see - Happiness, freedom, and peace of mind are always attained by giving them without expectation. The only way to raise yourself up is to raise others up - to raise your world up - to raise all of life just a little higher. Joy comes to you when you give it. Happiness becomes yours when you live it. Everything you need you are already capable of being. So smile from the heart and fulfill the destiny that is yours in this priceless moment.

Source: Marc and Angel

Which are the ones you would like to gift yourself this Christmas in order to welcome the brand new year to come? :)

Merry Christmas all! :) Hope all of you are spending this joyous season with your loved ones! Stayed blessed :)


Food for thought Thursday

Sometimes a bad day or a bad week make us feel like we have a bad life or something. We stop being grateful for the many things in life.

I read an article on the way to work today and it carried this quote:

"Imagine all the things you didn't give thanks to today disappears tomorrow." 
Having a roof over your head. Food on the table. Waking up healthy to fight for your dream. Being given a chance to start your life afresh every morning. Ability to hear the birds chirping outside your window. Eyes to see the beautiful things in life. Lovely family members and friends. And so many more.

Have you gave your thanks today? :)


Words of wisdom

Nothing beats starting a brand new week with an awesome article from Marc and Angel - 25 Things I would tell my 20 year old self.

I always love reading/hearing about what older people would tell their younger selves/children/grandchildren. I don't know about you, but I've always found more comfort and joy in the company of older people. They always have nuggets of wisdom about love, life, career, and people in general.

These are the points that I can resonate with the most:
1. Life is significantly easier when you are honest with yourself and others.
2. Stand up for yourself.
3. Drama is never worth putting up with.
4. If you can make a decent living doing what you love, DO WHAT YOU LOVE.
5. Don't merely exist..LIVE.
6. Invest time and energy in yourself everyday, you can never lose.

Read the entire list here.

Lao Tzu says

"Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you." 
Wise words. I can't wait to finish the 6-book series worth of Lao-Tzu's teachings. Got them in Tianjin, at a disgusting sale price of RMB30 or SGD6.

:O

Quotable Monday

I get pissed off really easily. Well not THAT easily but I do trip over the fuse fairly quickly, but it subsides almost immediately as well. It's usually over before anyone notices it, sans the major issues.

My tolerance level is very low at times (especially pertaining to issues that involves immature behaviours and stupid antics), but I can be strangely patient for others. Like letting people walk themselves all over me. HAHAHAHAHA. I clearly do not know how to prioritize the important things in life.

I asked my friend what quote would suit me and he sent me this. I could make this motto of the month for November and see how I fare. Hurhur. For the first half of the quote at least. I have been told I aced with flying colours for the second half - because my laughter is cheap :( Boo.


Quotable Saturday


Work in progress for this one :)

Marc and Angel

I've always been a fan of motivational stuff. Movies, short films, books, quotes, websites, you name it and I've probably read/watched it.

About 1 year ago, I discovered this website: Marc and Angel Hack Life - Practical Tips for Productive Living.

I LOVE THIS COUPLE. I love how their posts are always short and to the point :) I make a point to visit the site daily (they update pretty often), sometimes I re-read certain posts that I can identify with. 

Like the old saying goes:
"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing. That's why we recommend it daily." - Zig Ziglar
:))

Quotable Tuesday


I do have some awesome friends. Haha thanks for the quote! :)

Someday it will


Blogged from my iPhone

Sometimes I need this



Do it anyway

"People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; 
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; 
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; 
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; 
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; 
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; 
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; 
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; 
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God. 
It was never between you and them anyway."

- Mother Teresa

Words from LOTR

"It's like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger, they were. And sometimes you didn't want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it's only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had a lot of chances of turning back, only they didn't. They kept going. Because there were holding on to something."

- J.R.R Tolkien, The Two Towers

Eat, Pray, Love

I'm finally done with the book - really took my own sweet time on this one. Hurhur.

For the uninitiated, Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia is a personal memoir of Elizabeth Gilbert. It chronicles her trip around the world after her divorce and the discoveries she made during her travels. You can read more about the story here. 


The book features 108 short stories, 36 for each country - it's easy to digest (although some parts about Italy's culture and history did bore me a little) since each short story didn't go beyond 4-5 pages max (I think). My favourite portions were the ones that she wrote about India, covering a lot about inner peace, meditations and yoga. 

Personally, I like the way she writes - heart wrenching at some points, philosophical at others - but overall, hilarious. I chuckled to myself so many times. 

I've always had a soft (wayy too soft) spot for meaningful quotes and it's littered all over the place for this book. I guess that's one of the reasons why I enjoyed the book a lot. 

"Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be." 

"This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something."

"When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your mind around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings."

"You are, after all, what you think. Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions."

"You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That's the only thing you should be trying to control."

"Eventually, everything goes away."

"As smoking is to the lungs, so is resentment to the soul; even one puff is bad for you."

"God dwells within you, as you."

My favourite-est (if there's such a word) has to be the one the medicine man in Bali (I wished I had dropped by his place when I was in Ubud for work!) said:

"Why they always look so serious in Yoga? You make serious face like this, you scare away good energy. To meditate, only you must smile. Smile with face, smile with mind, and good energy will come to you and clean away dirty energy. Even smile your liver. Too serious, it makes you sick. You can call the good energy with a smile." 
It just mean one should create a practice of happiness so deep down, even your liver has a smile. 


LOVEEEEEEEE it :)




I know there are plenty of bad reviews for the movie, but I think I'm just going to ask Quek to download and just give it a try. Hurhur.

30 Things...

... Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30.

Personal favourites for Should Haves:

4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you're not ashamed to be seen carrying (burst out laughing at this)
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it (reference to no. 12).

Personal favourites for Should Knows:

4. When to try harder and when to walk away
13. Who you can trust, who you can't and why you shouldn't take it personally
15. Why they say life begins at 30.

Read full article here.

Definitely something to mull over ;)

Because my gut said so

So I've been getting some notes from friends about an update about my job/job hunt. Hurhur so here goes.

Besides the 3 job offers I turned down previously, I shamelessly turned down another 2. Key reasons for turning down: (1) Unusually probing questions into the status of my ex-employers (2) Man we so do not click. At this point in time, I'm considered half-employed - meaning I'm hired as a Consultant for one of the dream companies that I long to work for, albeit not on a full time basis. The current level of projects they have at this moment, really doesn't justify hiring another headcount. That aside, I do appreciate the MD giving me a project to devour on for the last 2 months, when he could have easily dismiss me since he couldn't convince all the heads in Asia to agree on hiring another person in times where project levels are not at an all-time-high. The project earned me really good money, and one small little badge on my resume too :)

So I'm currently on a available-for-projects-that-may-require-an-additional-helping-hand status - of course I'm free to go as and when another offer comes knocking by. The MD was very sweet as well to offer help that if he came across similar opportunities within or outside of the company, he would have me recommended first. That's real sweet of him :) Although I must say the role I'm fighting to get in, is a pretty niche one. This situation certainly reminds me a famous quote from "The Last Lecture" -

"Brick walls are there not to stop you, but to show you how much you want something." - Dr. Randy Pausch

I have another pending offer (meaning if I were to say "Yes" that role would definitely be mine) and another interview next week. Not too keen on the interview because it's not exactly a core part of my career path, more of agreeing to meet because I'm pretty interested in the background of the company. The only reason I'm not saying Yes to the pending offer is because I have 2 headhunters and 1 close mate discouraging me from joining the firm - "It's too messy" they say, "unless you want it as just a placeholder to gain some experience while waiting." Hmm. Will ponder about that.

All in all, discounting the 2 paid months I was on the project, I'm officially unemployed for around 2 months already. The horrors!, one may say. Trust me, I have my moments of uncertainty too (just ask my BF or my bro how annoying I've been ranting about worries and fears that seriously, don't exist) - but at this point I would like to let my hopes and dreams be greater than my fears. Especially since my greatest fear is to sign into another role just because I feel the rush/urgency to do so. I've learned my lesson once with my previous employer, my guess is I won't want to subject myself to that again. Hahaha.

So continue to cross the fingers and pray hard! :)


I've found it, Mr. Jobs. Just that I'm taking some time to find the right company to grow it :)


The Alchemist

I've finally gotten down to finish The Alchemist. It's such a lovely read. A book of pure magic, it's about a simple shepherd boy venturing out into the world to fulfill his Personal Legend and to seek great treasures. I love how short and sweet the book is, but yet able to cover so much ground which addresses the struggles and fears one may face when pursuing his/her dreams.

I wish I could scribble and underline all the important quotes (which is almost every other line) and paste them like all over my room. Haha


"It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting." 

"There is one great truth on this planet: whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do when you really want something, it's because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. It's your mission on earth."

"But if you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World, and you understand why you are here." 

"There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."

"One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving."

"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than suffering itself."

"Don't give in to your fears. If you do, you won't be able to talk to your heart." 

"Your eyes show the strength of your soul" 

"You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it's better to listen to what it has to say."

"Be aware of the place where you are brought to tears, that's where (your heart is) and that's where your treasure is." 

My favourite has to be:


I'm so adding this book to the list of books that I revisit at least once a year (including the likes of Tuesdays with Morrie and The Last Lecture.).

Yay time to start on Eat, Pray, Love.

Quotable Monday

"I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles." - Audrey Hepburn

Have a great Monday everyone :)


Faith in Humanity: Restored

My friend shared a link with me the other day - 21 pictures that will restore your faith in humanity. With all that nonsense, nasty stuff and negative vibes that goes around in our everyday lives, sometimes we forget, hey, lovely people exist and great moments are still in abundance.

My personal favourite? The picture of Chicago Christians who showed up at a gay parade to apologize for homophobia in the Church:-


I really think that means a lot for many people out there :)

I believe in you

If I have to name my favourite singer, it has to be Celine Dion. Talents aside, I think she has an amazing attitude towards life and definitely adversities. Yes, I have an unexplainable attraction to people with outstandingly positive attitude towards life. Hurhur.

Listening to "I believe in you" by Il Divo and Celine Dion uplifts my mood every single time. Always feel like I'm ready to conquer the world after putting it on repeat mode for hours. Haha.


" Life imposes things on you that you can't control, but you still have the choice of how you are going to live through it" - Celine Dion.
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