Showing posts with label Reflections. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Reflections. Show all posts

Goodbye 2017 and Hello 2018!

*Wipes away cobweb* Wow it's been so so long since my last update here!

Since I lack creativity and originality, I've decided to stick with this title moving forward, similar to 2017's and 2016's.

So 2017...

was quite a year! It has been an immensely fulfilling year for me for both work and personal side of things. 2017 was much more fulfilling than 2016 in many ways but I found myself more whiny and less happy. I'm not too sure why! I guess it's one of those things where you get everything you want in life and you start to forget how to give thanks 

If 2016 was unfulfilling, 2017 would be the complete opposite! Work and learning opportunities was stagnating for me in the previous workplace - my bosses highlighted that I had reached a bottle neck and that they could no longer value add for my growth. It was quite a frustrating stage for me as I've had build quite a large network and credential in the firm and would have been extremely beneficial if I could progress further with that foundation. Office hours became quite a torture as work no longer becomes challenging and I was rather disheartened with the lack of opportunities despite very good appraisals. 

Yet, even at such moments, life surprises you in ways that one can never expect. While chatting with an ex colleague who had moved on to a new company, he shared that my expertise could be put to better use in his firm. A few conversations later, I resigned and joined him in his new office. With a much smaller team and a much more aggressive growth target than my previous company, I found myself thrown into various projects and having to spearhead different initiatives. It was and still is a refreshing change since I made the move 6 months ago. 

I remembered someone told me before that one should "be careful of what you wish for" and this is probably one of those times! In the last 6 months, I barely had time to read any books or even blog on this platform. I'm also less active on social media as I found I had better use of my time to study new things at work. 

It was and still is a good change and work challenge that I sorely needed. Extremely thankful for that! 

Have also been accepted into a professional association that I've been building my experience for the last 4 years for and nominated into Board of Directors in late 2017. In the professional aspect, it has been a tremendous year. 

I fared way better in the first half of the year - when I had a much less challenging work environment and had a co-worker who's a vegetarian. I also found more time to visit a Chinese sinseh in the first 9 months of the year until work got too overwhelming and I had to cut down on my trips to visit the sinseh. As cliched as it sounds, I do feel the difference that 9 months of TCM brings - I was more energetic and my limbs didn't feel as cold as they used to.

2017 is a year of big changes for me and I must say at certain points of the year I did not handle them very well. With the house, upcoming wedding and career switch, I feel stretched and overwhelmed for most parts of the year. While I had aimed to practise more mindfulness and keep my inner negativity in check, I would say I failed this year.

In terms of trips to the gym, it's still a lot lesser than I had target it to be. I am also in 2 minds if I should continue the gym membership that I've been utilizing since 2010 as the dwindling trips is making it quite unattractive financially.

I read even lesser books in 2017, clocking only 15! This is just embarrassing as it seems to be on a downward trend  This also means I missed my target of 30 for the 3rd consecutive year! 

2017 is a mixed bag year for my close friends as it was filled with both great and sad news. I attended 1 wedding per month in the last quarter of the year and saw the birth of 3 babies - Audrey, Charles and Issac. Christmas gatherings have become quite a crowd these days! 2017 also saw the departure of my friend's mother and another's grandmother. It is true that the sign of the 30s is when you start witnessing yourself or your similar-aged friends experience some form of loss.

On the family front, my uncle has unfortunately been diagnosed terminal brain cancer that spread to his bones and lungs. This came as such a big surprise for us as he was so hardy and takes very good care for his health. An ex-colleague of mine was diagnosed with NMO, a rare auto-immune disease which attacks the nervous system. All these remind me that life is so fragile and so short. Really does make a lot of things in life look so insignificant.

I'm still not on the best terms with my parents, especially my mum. Sometimes the clashes in wedding preparation expectation does make things a little awkward. I really should be a more sensible child given that my parents are really getting on in years.

Besides being a big year for career changes, 2017 is also a big year for me in other personal matters. After almost a year of house hunting, we finally found our dream place in June 2017! This was such a big relief for us. We got the keys in November 2017 and is currently finalizing our renovation plans. CANNOT WAIT TO GET THIS PLACE DONE UP! 

After the proposal in September 2016, we managed to finalize and confirm most of the big items and vendors required for our wedding in 2018. I thought we were being absolute kiasu in our wedding prep already but there are so many other couples who booked their vendors way before we did. Still amazes to no end. I'm very happy to say we manage to secure all our dream vendors and big kudos to the boy for being an absolute sweetheart in the many requests I have had so far for the prep.

It is not easy juggling both home renovation and wedding, not to mention the huge sum of money required  It is also 2 big projects that we undertake as a couple. We fought and made up many times through the last one year and it truly helps to build a stronger foundation for the relationship as we understand each other better through the process.

I also did not fulfill the goal to blog more on this platform. Yikes.

I did not get to invest as much as I want to in 2017 - mainly because I had no spare time to read through articles or conduct my own analysis. The bright side however was, despite purchasing the house and making payments to most of our wedding vendors, my savings stayed pretty intact for the year. That's just excellent news for me :)

I have had traveled twice in my new work role to places I have never been. once to India where I visited Pune, Hyderabad and Bangalore and once to Chengdu. The office also gave me my first ever APEC card! Absolutely looking forward to more travels with the new co 

On personal trips, the boy brought me to Bangkok to celebrate my birthday and also to relieve some of the wedding prep and house renovation plans stress. It was an amazing 4 day trip filled with endless good food and excellent massages!

For 2018...

Similar to 2017, it is going to be a super exciting year - with the wedding FINALLY taking place and also kickstarting the renovation for our home 

After 5 years with the previous company, I finally made the decision of leaving the comfort zone. It was a wise choice as I sorely needed a more challenging environment.

With the more autonomy in my new work place, I look forward to growing my career and developing my professional skills this year.

I picked up the bad habit of having too much caffeine in 2017 (read: 3 times a day! ) so I aim to reduce that this year. Reducing to 1 or maximum 2 on challenging days would be the target for the year. Best if I can avoid them completely on weekends. It's not going to be easy but I will get there!

Trips to the gym was very sporadic in 2017 and I really need to up my game in 2018 (especially with the wedding omg!). I am quite satisfied with my diet except that I could really do with more fruits. Something to work on in the new year!

Keeping negativity in check is still challenging for me - especially when there seem to be a lot of items/issues to settle on many fronts. I do need to remind myself that these are all things that I've had wished for (an amazing partner, a dream house in the location we want and a mind stimulating work environment) and I should be counting my blessings that I'm facing happy problems :)

Sadly, I've missed my target for 3 consecutive years and I'm just really embarrassed. However, I do not wish to lower that target and aims to keep it to 30. Gotta keep trying!

Someone in my old work place once told me that as you get older, you are more concerned with the quality than the quantity of your friends. And that is so so true (am I aging so quickly already??). While I want quality for the friendships that I keep, I must also bear in mind that I want to be that quality friendship someone else wants to keep.

2018 will be another year of weddings (including my own) and probably more babies!

I hope my relationship with my parents improve in 2018, and that I learn to hold back my words if they are not going to come out nice.

2018 is going to be a big year for the boy and I - with the renovation of our new home and also our upcoming wedding. It really isn't easy juggling both, be it time, energy and money. But, I do want to remember all these as happy problems (as what ALL my married friends tell me) and to cherish the experience of having partner with the boy in 2 of the bigger projects of our lives together.

On the investment and personal savings front, I do hope to invest more and continue to grow my savings/liquidity. With my parents aging and increase in adult responsibilities like mortgage and taxes, personal financial management is definitely becoming increasing important to me.

I'm unable to tell if I will be able to have my honeymoon within the year itself (my brain has no more space for planning anymore things haha!) so I'll probably dedicate this area to my work travels. I hope to visit more properties now that my team is more firmed up in terms of structure.

And maybe, just maybe, a new place of adventure with the boy as well 

Pretty much like how I end all my new year post, here's the quote to drive 2018 - to be mindful of my own vibe and to be surrounded by my kind of tribe 

Goodbye 2016 and hello 2017!

Amazing. I know we probably say this every single year - but damn this year really flew by! I am every bit the left-brainer so I'll just stick to the same title I have exactly one year ago 

So 2016...

was a bit of a mixed bag year for me - immensely blessed in personal relationships and financial planning but not that great in terms of work. I guess you could say I gained some, and lost some 

It's my 4th year in this company and it's my longest serving company since I joined the workforce! It's pretty incredible what one year can change - my bosses went from being the biggest supporter of my career growth to telling me that they have no more value-add to it. All within one year! Big sigh.

The bright spark was I got to assist the Finance department in a performance review and audit trip to Yangon. I learned so much in the 2 weeks stationed on the property. It certainly helped immensely that the 2 colleagues I tagged along with were extremely helpful and willing to share their findings and experience. 

On the whole, I felt stagnated in my current role as it offers very little challenges in my opinion. 

In terms of health, I think I fare pretty well! I caught a bout of flu somewhere mid-year after coming back from Shanghai and that was the only time I fell ill in the entire year. 

My diet has changed a fair bit this year, steering towards that of a vegetarian diet. Having a co-worker who has the same diet certainly helps and most of my lunches in 2016 were vegetarian - not the fried-gluten-mock-meat kind of vegetarian though! I have certainly found joy in this diet as I find myself consuming lesser meat even with my family and casual dinners. As cliched as it sounds, I do feel lighter. 

2016 was not as great a year for fitness as compared to 2015 I must admit. My gym schedule was going all well until that bout of flu (yup I'm blaming it on the flu hahaha) which saw me drop the gym for a straight 3 weeks as I wanted full recovery and steered clear from any form of exercise during that period. As with most things in life, once you stop, it requires herculean strength to kick start it all over again. Yes, 3 weeks was all it took to take away my drive. My gym sessions dropped from 3 times a week to 2 and sometimes once  In the name of laziness, I certainly did not bother to drive myself harder as well. Yikes. 

I missed my reading target in 2016, reading only 19 books instead of the targeted 30. This meant missing my goal for the 2nd consecutive year! On the bright side, I cleared 4 more books than 2015. Hahahaha. A dear friend of mine read 100 in a year - incredible! That is a number I will find it hard to hit. Might have to start with quitting the mobile games 

This is a year of proposals (myself included) and babies. My bestie announced her pregnancy after trying for almost 4 years - conceived naturally! So so happy for her! Different groups of friends saw the birth of their babies this year and wow conversations have definitely changed - from wedding planning previously to now diapers and childcare  A few friends finally proposed or got proposed to this year, looks like it will be another wave of weddings in the next 1 to 2 years! 

I wish I could say I am a better daughter and sister but I keep falling short of that. My tempers are still short, especially when it comes to my mum blasting the TV as her hearing deteriorates with age and her playing mobile games day in and out. 

I fared not too shabbily in terms of financial planning. But of course, there will ALWAYS be room for improvement in this area. I do wish I had bought more stocks this year as I held back as there was just too much volatility this year for me to venture into the market. Well can take that as a lesson I guess! 

In terms of my romantic relationship, I'm really really happy to have J back for good. No more long-distance! He brought our relationship to the next level when he popped the question after our anniversary dinner :) We have commenced our house hunting and booked the venue for our banquet. Exciting (and probably stressful as well) times ahead! 

I only traveled once for work this year and that was Yangon. It was a fruitful trip but I do wish that I had more opportunities to visit the overseas properties.

Similarly, I only had one personal trip in 2016 to Shanghai. It was to meet the boy and we had a fun time exploring Beijing (you can read about our visits to Temple of Heaven, Great Wall of China, Forbidden City, Lama Temple and Prince Gong Mansion).

For 2017...

It will definitely be an exciting year of changes (hello mortgage and wedding planning!) and setting deadlines for some dreams :) And may it be a year where I surprise myself with what I am capable of.

2016 is a year I feel I truly plateaued in terms of professional growth  On a positive note, it does force me to reflect on what are the skillsets I should be focusing on in the next 3 to 5 years and how to find those opportunities either within the same company or elsewhere. 

It's a little hard to plan if the job-hop will happen this year so I will focus on learning as much as I can in my current place by exposing myself to more cross-department training and property audits if possible. This would really help to build my portfolio towards my goal of being an effective asset manager. 

With the pending wedding, I will have to start taking this more seriously. Hahaha. Especially so in terms of diet - while I'm happy I'm more into the whole vegetarian diet now, I do have to cut down on the junk food like cookies and chocolate, especially so at work. 

Fitness seems more important now as well, I need to look fit and lean in my wedding gown! #priorities  Will definitely to kick start the whole 3 times a week gym routine.

I've included one more WELLNESS category this year I do find it getting increasingly important as the age and responsibilities creep up. I have had negative thoughts running through my mind in 2016, especially so with the setbacks and growth plateau at work. I will want to practise more mindfulness in the coming year :) 

I'm going to be absolutely shameless and go for the same target I've set myself in the last 2 years. 30 books it shall be! 

It is indeed true that the older you get, you cherish the quality friends a lot more. I guess it has something to do with having lesser personal time and also more family responsibilities. You prioritize meaningful relationships more than focusing on collecting a large number of friends just for the sake of it. 2016 was a great year in terms of friendships for me (didn't lose any! Hahaha) and I hope 2017 remains the same. 

I will be a more tolerant child this year and will need to bear in mind that my parents are getting on in age. It is high time I disregard certain habits of my parents that will not change and that I should focus on cherishing my time with them. 

2017 should be a year that I will see a lot of capital outflow with the pending wedding and house hunting that is going on. We hope to get our house within the first half of the year and that should see a huge hole in our pockets! The good thing is we have saved up a fair bit so far but we will have to continue to be prudent with our funds and continue the saving habits that we have. 

On the investment front, I want to be less emotional about my money and stocks. 

This year will see a lot of changes in the dynamics of my relationship with J, with plans to own our first matrimonial home and also plan our ROM and wedding. I'm honestly really excited about building a future together with the boy :)

I will have to add one more item to this category - which is to blog more on this platform. I have had this space for a good 12 years and it has been a great depository of wonderful memories. For it to continue that way, I will definitely need to be more active in keeping this page updated! 

As I've put my hand up for more property audits next year (which hopefully materializes), I hope to be on more corporate travels! 

For personal travels, J and I will probably plan for a short trip or no overseas trip at all especially with the house hunting, pending renovation and wedding planning that will take up the bulk of 2017. 

Like good old tradition, I shall end this post with a quote for me to drive 2017: 

Goodbye 2015 and Hello 2016!

Because I'm boring and cannot think of a better title, I'm going to reuse the same one I used exactly one year ago. Haha!

So 2015...

was a fruitful year for me - especially so in terms of financial planning and career related areas. 


It's my 3rd year and counting in this company and I foresee myself staying a few more years. My team went through some ups and downs this year, witnessing the departure of 2 analysts. We managed to hire one replacement before the year ends and I'm grateful for that - it's mad crazy without the 2 headcount. 

Thanks to my wonderful bosses, I received more exposure this year - ranging from a cross-department training with the Finance team in Malaysia to fronting the team for a review in Australia all by myself. This helps to push myself out of the usual comfort zone and I had to hold my opinions in the boardroom. This year, I get to mentor the new hire as well. 

In this aspect, I think I did fairly well for the year at work. 


I reckon I fare ALOT better in this area compared to 2014. I fell sick a grand total of two times in 2015 and that is a pretty good record for me. Cleaning up the diet probably helps a lot - with lesser processed food, limiting fried food to only once every 2 weeks and cutting back on sugary drinks. I could really do better in the sleep department though. 

Maintaining my gym schedule does help as well. To ensure that I follow through my exercise regime, I usually plan them out 1 to 2 months in advance. But this also meant some of my social life were affected because I had to turn down last minute meetups. 

Made an effort to visit my cousin more often at her skin clinic and get my eczema problem settled. I can safely say all that diligence paid off and even my old eczema scars are healing well.  

I finally went for a dental appointment on the very last day of 2015 - not proud to admit that I haven't seen a dentist for the entire year. Gross! 

All in all, this year made me realize that good health is never a given. Love and take care of body and in turn it will take care of you. 


I had the aim to finish 30 books in 2015 - failed terribly at it. I only managed to finish half that target. Totally blame it on mobile game apps on distracting me during commute instead of finishing my reading list. 

This year my reading list was a little different from what I set out to read - which were mostly supposed to be entirely business finance based. I decided to have a more diverse reading list by introducing books relating to public speaking, emotions management and also workings of the brain. 

Big thanks to my sister for subscribing to our national papers, now I make it a habit to read the papers daily and it certainly has helped me keep abreast of issues. 


2014 saw many of my close friends getting married, 2015 saw a lot of baby full month parties! Huifang had her baby boy Ethan, Shaun and Xinyi saw the arrival of baby Daniel, Lyna and her baby girl Maryann and my little cousin welcomed her second son. 

My bro Yeow also got hitched this year. Happy year for all my friends! 

I set out to be a better friend this year - I think I did okay. Mainly because none of my friends have disowned me yet. Haha! 

I'm still not the patient sister or daughter I had envisioned myself to be so in this area I flopped terribly this year. 


Achieved my saving goal for the year! 

In matters of the heart, J and I have grown in the relationship despite being apart for most of the year. He made a lot of effort to come back whenever he could and I really appreciate that. We also made some significant steps in our relationship, one of which being the application for a Build-To-Order flat this year :) There's another one which I will speak of at a later date.


I traveled a fair bit for work in 2015 - going to Malaysia twice, China and also Australia. All were fruitful trips where I learned a lot. Looking forward to more of such opportunities in 2016!

All my personal travels this year were made to Shanghai where I had 2 separate weeks of wonderful time with the boy. 

For 2016...

It's another year of goals setting and getting closer to dreams! 


I had a conversation with my bosses before 2015 wrapped up, that I crave for more responsibilities such as fronting my own portfolio and having the opportunities to hold my own in meetings with the high management. They have supported the notion and is willing to open up those routes for me.

Definitely looking forward to 2016 where I can achieve that few milestones that I've set for myself!


I am fairly pleased with my health status in 2015 with a perfect A health screening report (according to the GP at least) and no eczema flare-ups. The only thing I can't seem to quit is milk tea and I want to cut back on that in 2016 - instead of daily, I want to cut it to thrice a week.

2015's diet worked for me (no withdrawal syndromes thank goodness) and it shows that I can really live with lesser fried food. I shall continue that into 2016 as well.

Going to the gym 3 times a week in 2015 was a good habit to keep and I aim to maintain that in 2016.


I didn't get to stick with my 2015 reading goals but I want to give it a try again. This year round besides the usual business and financial planning books, I want to venture into different genres.

This year, the target remains at 30 books.


I realized as one gets older (big 30!), one starts to realize that it's more important that friends come in quality rather than quantity. 2015 was a year where I see myself getting closer to people who matters and that is something I am extremely grateful for. This year, I want to cherish those who matters.

Not the best child anyone ask for - with all that impatience and hot temper-ness. My parents are getting on in years and it's about time I wise up and stop being such a brat sometimes. This year, I want to manage my impatience towards my parents and be a more dutiful child.


Financially, I hope to achieve yet another saving goal I set myself.

In matters of the heart, I can't wait for the boy to be back for good in June! Meanwhile, maybe I will aim not to throw tantrums at him too often hahahahaha.


Work related travels are not up to me so I can't make a resolution on that.

On a personal level, I will be flying to China at least one more time before the boy returns. In view of my saving goal, that is likely to be the only travel plan for the year!

Shall end this post with a quote that I want to use as my driver for 2016

Onwards to an amazing 2016 everyone! 

Goodbye 2014 and Hello 2015!

I've not been the best person in keeping this blog updated - and for the daily readers who still bothered to pop by every now and then, I thank you immensely for showering this friend/stranger some of your precious time :)

Since this is the first post of 2015, I'll make it a cliched one - one that wraps up the previous year and talks about the next.

So 2014....

has been a very ordinary but beautiful year for me. Ordinary because there was no exceptional feat I did in 2014 that makes me want to jump up high and fist pump myself. Beautiful because many things happened that still makes me smile with my heart warm.


I started 2014 with a promotion at work. I've had switched a few jobs almost every other year in the first 3 to 4 years of my working life. This meant I never stayed long enough to be promoted within the firm although I've always left with glowing appraisals from my then bosses. This promotion definitely meant something to me. Covering additional responsibilities has helped me grow over the last year and I'm definitely looking forward to more growth opportunities in the coming years.


I still failed terribly at taking care of my health although I vowed to clean up my eating habits and exercise regime at the start of 2014. I fell sick a grand total of 6 times this year - 2 of which took almost 3 weeks to recover. Not the best sign for someone still in her 20s (albeit late)! The year ended with me sick and yes I counted down to 2015 with a nasty cough and running nose.

Fortunately, I managed to maintain my exercise regime right till budget season - before it all fell apart.


My reading goals died mid way through the year - not proud of it either. I would love to blame it on the harsh work schedules but who am I kidding when folks like Steve Jobs and Warren Buffett reads voraciously even in their demanding roles.


2014 witnessed the marriage of many of my close ones - Joyce to her life-long friend Vincent, Huifang to her high school sweetheart Jerly, Pamela to her partner in crime James, my cousin Danny to his favourite lady Sofie and my little cousin Xinjuan to her best friend since middle school.

I still did not become the good daughter and sister that I wanted to be - I still had my fair share of tempers and lost patience on my parents more times than I should.


Thankfully, I kept to my saving goals. Probably a side product of getting closer to the big 30, I've become much more conscious of the insurance policies I buy (and what they cover). 2014 saw a surge in the number of meetings and emails exchange with my financial planner and I'm glad to say I closed off the year satisfied with my financial planning.

Attended a few finance classes this year and I'm glad to say there were so many great useful retirement planning advice I've taken away from the folks who were kind enough to share them.

Last and all, I met the new love of my life - albeit it's only 3 months old and he's far away in Shanghai for an 18-month long secondment, we are still doing fine.


This year has been relatively mild (compared to my earlier career options) in travel, being only to Australia for work and Myanmar for leisure. Mild as they were, both were places that I've never been to until this year and both were beautiful in their own ways. I wished I traveled more on a personal/leisure basis but I have to keep an eye on my financial goals as well. Something has got to give sometimes I guess!

For 2015...

It's always nice to start the new year knowing what you fell short of last year and why you need to improve this year :)


Now that I have spent exactly a year in my new (or not so new) role, I'm motivated to learn more and move on to the next level. The feedback session with my direct report late last year fueled my hunger to build necessary experiences and skill set in order to move up the ladder. I need to work harder this year to not let him, and most importantly, myself, down.

This year, I want to be able to manage junior staff better and be able to hold my opinions better in a boardroom.


2014 ended on a tough reminder to myself that health is so so important. Over the last one year I can feel my health deteriorate - frequent bouts of flu and a much longer time to recover. I came back from Myanmar with a deep chest cough that witnessed the come back of my asthma. I haven't had that since I was 15 years old! Determined to steer my health back on track, I've visited 2 sinsehs, 1 who has helped me with my eczema 4 years back and the other one recommended by a good friend of mine. Both commented that my diet and lifestyle need to change - more fresh food, no fried food and minimal late nights.

This year, I will clean up my diet (fried food free for the last 1 week and counting!) and be the obedient patient that my Chinese sinseh needs me to be. Exercise regime will resume when this bout of cough is over so my health and fitness level can be back on track. This body - will after all be the one and only place I have to live in - I might as well make it a good place to be.


Since last year, I've kept my readings to strictly non-fiction books - mostly business and finance based. This trend is likely to be here to stay, especially with friends sending in lists of books to read from Business Insider, Inc. Com, Forbes and Stanford School of Business! I've kick started the year with Peter Lynch's Beating the Street. I'm only into the first chapter and I'm enjoying it so far.

This year, I aim to finish 30 books.


I've come to realized some of my close friends are afraid of asking me for favours because they were afraid I would be busy - when Huifang got married, she said it took her courage to ask me to be her emcee whereas I was exhilarated to be able to host her wedding with my (and also her) bestie, Wendy. She mentioned that she knew I was busy with work (mostly) and was afraid I would turn her down. Then it dawned to me, while I've always thought I was a great friend, I actually wasn't. I was always preoccupied with work and my dear friends have thought themselves as burdens sometimes if they were to reach out to me.

What a terrible friend I've been.

The same rings true for my parents - both of whom have always hesitated to trouble me because I was mostly impatient with their request for help relating to electronic gadgets and other administrative matters (both do not speak or read English).

What a terrible child I've been.

This year, I still want to be a more patient daughter and sister to my family. I want to be more generous with my parents - in both monetary terms and love. I also want to be a more understanding friend who can listen better and be there for my friends whenever they need me most.


Financially, I want to be able to maintain my saving habits and reach my desired financial goals. I will be more disciplined and focused in driving and reaching these milestones.

In terms of relationships, I want to be a better girlfriend to J. He's been a great (and bigger) guy so far, coping well with my weird temper and always putting me first in his plans (be it now or future). Now that we are miles apart due to his 18-month secondment in Shanghai, I've learned to cherish time with him more. Although we video-chat every single night, it doesn't lessen the lack of his presence here in Singapore. I definitely still miss having meals with him just across the table or just holding his hand and walking down streets.


I foresee slightly more personal travels to Shanghai this year just because J is now there and it's not possible that he flies back all the time. Had plans to hike Mount Rinjali in May but that is likely to clash with the original schedule that was set aside to visit J in Shanghai. Anyhow, we will work these timings out ;-)

And here's my favourite quote of the year to wrap up this post:

Don't wait for inspiration. Be the inspiration. 

HELLO 2015! Wishing you all a great year ahead as well! 

H2 2013

June is over before I even knew it started.

So that half year mark has passed :) I didn't set too many goals for myself at the beginning of the year. After getting rid of an emotional draining boss and ending a mid-term relationship (since it ain't short or long enough hehz), all I had wished for myself was to be a better person, and to walk out of all that doom and gloom of 2012. Ok fine, looking back it wasn't THAT bad. Reminder to self: things always feels worse when you are in them, and it is what it is, just a feeling. ;)

In the last 6 months, I stopped taking a sarcastic dig at my ex-boss (even when I had a chance to while chilling with the ex co folks), moved on from my last relationship (you can tell when you are neutral even hanging out with a group of friends with him), completed Sundown 21.1km, started travelling for work, fought for better opportunities in office, attended many investment conferences, made (many) new friends, finished my Elementary Bahasa Indonesia lessons and started on Intermediate, gave gym time priority, got spoiled entirely by friends who took me out to amazing dining places to satisfy my gastronomic desires and hosted a wedding for the first time. I'm pretty sure there's more but my memory is absolutely failing me. As usual.

What the last 6 months taught me was - when you start focusing on the things you want and love to do, all other negativity in your life melts away. It's one of those life lessons you preach endlessly to your friends but sometimes falls short on following it yourself.

At this mid-year checkpoint, I aim to do more for myself, be a better friend, child, team mate and person.

Will be kickstarting my second half of 2013 with a trip to Kota Kinabalu. Off to climb Mount Kinabalu next week! I haven't start packing my bag, so essentially I'm psyched but totally unprepared. So I better get down to buying my hiking shoes tonight and start climbing some stairs in them.

Can't wait to strike off another item off the 2013 to-dos and of course that ever-growing bucket list :)

Onward to an equally (or more) impressive 6 months!


I'm extremely stuffed from all that Christmas food at home - so that's day 4 of my state of food coma. Will be locking myself in the gym next week man. Hahaha. Don't get me wrong, I'm still grateful for the company of all these amazing people in this festive season :) Oh yes, the food and gifts too :) Hurhur. 

Amid all the eating, drinking, partying and gift receiving/giving, it's also time of the year to give thanks for all the amazing things that have taken place in the last 11 months and to welcome yet another awesome year with a grateful heart :) 

2012 was well.... eventful. An extremely unpleasant working experience and a sizeable amount of wallowing in self-pity took up the bulk of my 2012. I reported to an emotionally abusive boss, was completely demoralized about my future career path, got fired for no apparent reason, threw myself into 6 months of joblessness and ended my rocky love relationship. Looking back, it has been quite a ride.

It has however, also became a year of discoveries for me. That I could be a true blue Debbie Downer if something hit me hard enough. That I have the potential to turn bitter. That real naysayers do exist, and in definite abundance. That I really do love hotels. That when some things are not meant to last, they are not meant to last. That no one can take away your self-worth unless you allow them to.

Being Debbie Downer made me miss my jovial self very much and I'm more than happy to have her back now :) Most importantly, I never want to lose her again! Niahaha. I guess sometimes things need to happen for one to understand only you know what's best for you. So to all you peepz out there who can't stand me being the forever energizer bunny, too bad guys. I got her back and I ain't ditching her again. So deal with it. Hahahaha. I've learn that naysayers exist not to run you down, but to fortify what you want/don't want in life. So instead of resisting them, embrace them. There's no need to get defensive or break down under their words. Let them probe about your passions or capabilities - acknowledge them and then surpass them. Simple as that. Last but not least, sometimes when you feel that a certain relationship is not a good fit, you are probably right. Don't ignore what your heart or your inner voice tells you. Most of the time, they are eerily accurate.

This year has shown me one thing - that like what my friends have been telling me for years, I'm truly a very blessed child. Clearly, much have happened this year so that I have access to better things. I guess Ted Mosby (for you How I Met Your Mother fans) was right when he said "Things fall apart for better things to fall in. You just have to believe in it.". And things have turned out just like what the director in my previous company said, "Everything will get better. It always does." 10 months ago, I sat in his room, thinking that he was mad when he was speaking those exact words. But now, I see what he meant. 

I've come a long way for 2012, or at least I'll like to think that way. Hurhur. 

Sometimes instead of looking how far we are from our goals, we need to celebrate how far we've come as well :). I certainly am miles away from where I expect myself to be but I'm equally thankful what a long way I've come today. 

Will need to start cleaning the bedroom and work on those plans for 2013! 

Till then, make merry and enjoy the festive season with your very loved ones :)   

The other path

Sometimes I wonder what I would be doing with my life if I didn't take the sensible path of going to a business school.

No I'm not saying I don't like what I'm doing now (oh speaking of that, I will talk about it in another post). Just a random ponder.

Maybe I'll be a street artist playing my drums. Maybe I'll be a programmer because believe it or not, I actually do enjoy writing scripts in my free time. Maybe I'll be a motivational speaker because most of my friends thinks I can motivate people the right way.


Apologies for a random and uninspiring post. Hurhur.


And so the new year crept up on us unknowingly ;) I didn't have 2010 Resolutions last year so there's nothing to repost about. Hehe.

Nonsense aside, it was a year filled with growth - both mentally and spiritually.Breakup was good, new job is awesome. Visited Japan for the first time, saw snow for the first time, snowboard-ed for the first time, bowl-ed for the first time, left my first job, did a Tequila shot for the first time (in my entire life, yes), visited Philippines for the first time and of course many parts of the China for the first time.

2010 was an extremely fruitful year - despite the little glitch that happened mid last year where I got dumped. LOL. I remembered R*ichard and K*angxun telling me repeatedly it was a good end, don't brood over it. I thought they were crazy. Especially when I had a few certain gfs who told me because I wasn't tolerant enough towards his plight.

6 months has passed since and I can only say I'm glad to see R*ichard and K*angxun's point of view. I was speaking to C*hoon last night - he ended things with his ex of 7 years because he caught her cheating on her for the 3rd time and he figured it was really the last straw. I remembered picking him up when he was down and he picking me up when I was down and out. Now we are both at a better stage of our lives where he found a new love and will be getting married next year. And me? Happily enjoying the company of all my awesome friends ;)

He told me there's no way he can wipe away the last 7 years of his life - but he's happy there are no daily fights to deal with, no never-ending expectations to fill. And to that point, I'm happy I can talk about anything I want without having to worry if I have to hear a bitter point of view. I don't have to be kept on my toes, wondering if I will say anything wrong that will trigger another quarrel.

So R*ichard, K*angxun and C*hoon were right - things did turn out the better for me. Hehez ;)

That aside, new job was a major leap from my previous position. I find myself lost most of the time and constantly having to meet new expectations with every new project. Having to travel for work has always been a childhood dream of mine because I never got to travel as a kid. If I can put it, I'm living my childhood dream right now, travelling around Asia Pacific for work.

As for my hopes for 2011? Ok I haven't write a single one yet! I'll come up with something by the end of this week.


Taking it from Prof Koh:

"To dream anything that you want to dream, that is the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do, that is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself to test your limits, that is the courage to succeed" - Bernard Edmonds.

All in all, happy awesome year my dear friends! May this year more awesome-er than the last ;)

Hello 2009~~~~!!!!!


2008 just flew by. LIKE THAT. *shudders*

My 2008 was jam packed. From finishing my final semester with SMU, to job hunting, to Commencement (aka Gradutation Ceremony), to more job hunting, to landing my very first official job in my life, to enjoying it...and now loving it =)))

Apart from growing old (which I have yet to come to terms with since I passed the 18 year old mark), I have certainly matured a lot over the year as well.

I know the boys will beg to differ on the maturity part (yes behavourial wise, sadly I still resemble a kid. HAHAHAHA. And outlook wise, I'm sorry I still look young. HHAHAHAH.), but truth to be told, graduation, job hunts, landing myself an almost dream job (yet to be DREAM job because I feel inadequate for the role =((  ) has helped me understand myself much more.

My New Year Resolutions will not get published as usual. They will only be revealed after the year end so I don't get condemned for not finishing any one on the list. Hahaha
Last year had been good. I

1) Scored my best GPA for my final sem (albeit the part that it didn't really help with the overall GPA..hahah)
2) Started exercising 3 times a week on a regular basis (albeit the part that it kinda disappeared after I start work..LOL)
3) SAW A380 RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY EYES (Shall work on getting a chance to ride it. haha)
4) Have a longer temper (not as short as before but c'mon, I'm working on it. Hahaha)
5) Found a job I love and really hope to stay in the many years to come =D
6) Can give my parents money
7) Lost 4 kg because of a bad gastric flu in July and then still maintained the light weight till now. HAHAHAHA.
8) Have a more feminine wardrobe. (Still working on it! Hahaha)
9) Started a little saving account for my Masters (oh man don't remind me how long it will take...)
10) Have more savings!!!!!!!!

That's it for this entry. 2009 will nonetheless be a challenging year with the bad economy.

Let's just hope.......the year of the Bull/Ox/Moo moo/Cow will be BULLish!!!!!! Just like what it was supposed to signify. Hahaha.

Big Hugs everyone!!!!!!!!!!! May 2009 be a better year ahead!!!! =D

Eh Ya Hor Part III

Was reading Amanda's blog and came across something she got from her friend's blog:
Guys time is precious. Building a career based on relationships and effort.
But girls see all the sweet things in a guy when he spends his time on them.
The more inefficient, the sweeter.
Missing the bus to talk, forgetting to eat to write up a card or even walking on the beach when there’s work to be done.

Who has more time wins.

Very true. Hahaha.

And then I came across another one while blog surfing yesterday (can't remember who's) to illustrate the difference in men women thinking mechanism.

Her side of the story:

He was in an odd mood Sunday night. We planned to meet at a bar for a drink. I spent the afternoon shopping with the girls and I thought it might have been my fault because I was a bit later than I promised, but he didn't say anything much about it.
The conversation was very slow going so I thought we should go off somewhere more intimate so we could talk more privately. We went to this restaurant and he was STILL acting a bit funny.

I tried to cheer him up and started to wonder whether it was me or something else. I asked him, and he said no. But I wasn't really sure.
So anyway,in the car on the way back home, I said that I loved him deeply and he just put his arm around me. I didn't know what the hell that meant because you know he didn't say it back or anything. We finally got back home and I was wondering if he was going to leave me! So I tried to get him to talk but he just switched on the TV.

Reluctantly, I said I was going to go to bed. Then after about 10 minutes, he joined me and to my surprise, we made love.But, he still seemed really distracted, so afterwards I just wanted to confront him but I just cried myself to sleep. I just don't know what to do anymore.

I mean, I really think he's seeing someone else. =(

His Side of the Story:
Manchester United lost. Got laid though.

HAHAHAHA Can't help but it was soooooooo funny. Especially the guy's part of the story. LOL
Now we know why guys always say we "THINK TOO MUCH!!" HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.
Ok that was a real good opening to my last morning of 2008 =D
Yes yes will work on my reflections tonight after the countdown la.

I thank my lucky stars...

Gosh, bout 15 min ago, i nearly died on the road. I thank my lucky stars. I thank the fren who called me.

Here's wat happened:

It was red light, GREEN MAN. So I cross the road. Half way thru, my fone rang. So i slowed down my steps to dig for my fone in my bag.<

As I was about to answer and tk one more step in front at the same time, one bloody car SPED past me. Given the speed, if I din slow down to answer my fone, I won't be writing tis blog entry now.

I rem I stunned for a while becoz I was trying to recall if it was red man or green man. I glanced up and saw dere's still 5 more green men left. KAOZ.

I'm just glad to be alive. Really.

It's nite time again...

it's the time when sky becomes dark..the streets grow quiet..and the heart feels more calm..listening to leslie cheung's "zhui" now..great track..nv fails to bring me into moods to write some REALLY deep stuff..hahaha..but i shall not write any today..i m too shagged to write anything philosophical..i slept a total of 5-6 hrs in these 3 days..and it's starting to get to me le..shagged..but still doing work..i haf morphed into a work scary..working and working..dunno wat is "rest" went to c the doc..coz i was sick..and i was juz telling the doc how i haf problems slping at nite..and the next thing i noe..i fell aslp on the patient's bed..only to b awoken by my doc 20 min later..oh man..nap attack..bad bad bad.

My doc tinks i m stressed..but i feel tt i m perfectly fine..hmm..mayb it;s the case of a drunkard who will nv say he is drunk..hahaha..but i m not stressed!!!! i noe wat stress feels disgusting feeling in u..deep in ur body..i noe pressure cooker feeling..i noe..i had tt in JC..but not now..i actually quite enjoy the work..OKAY..i get the picture..i m becoming a's the picture..and i dun like it..i rem being something like tt back in JC..and only to find myself distanced from my dowan tt..i dowan...

ok..time to go do something productive..
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